Friend request question

[roxyb]

Something odd sorta happened.  I tried to add a target as a friend, and I got a notification that they added me (the little pop-up in the corner) but when I went to their page, it was still private.  What does that mean? I've  never had that happened before.

[CornellWeasel]

could it be that your target added you and quickly deleted you?

[Angry Johnny]

had it happen two or three times...sometimes, the pop up tells you they added you, but you have to log out then log back in...it's just a facebook glitch.  Sometimes, though, Cornellweasel is right, could've added you quickly then deleted you.

[roxyb]

Thanks for the answers.  I tried logging out but it didn't work. They probably deleted me right after.  I clicked on it literally seconds after I was accepted, but I guess I wasn't fast enough!

[cymbaline]

My first thought was that they set their privacy settings tighter on you (or the entire friends list you're on). I've done that for a couple of people that I didn't really want to be rude to, but didn't want them seeing absolutely everything (certain photo albums, work & contact info, etc.) Since facebook privacy settings are so granular, just because you're someone's friend doesn't guarantee that you have full access.

[alex27]

I had the same problem.  They confirmed, but they don't show up on my friends list and I don't show up on theirs.  Do I have a setting wrong? 
I would really like to make this one work without sending a request again.